Aside from family issues, which are the only thing I become truly upset about, this past year has probably been the most stressful year of my life. In September of last year my husband and I bought a home that had to be completely rebuilt with a 203k Rehabilitation Loan. Along the way we have run into about a million roadblocks, gone through two contractors and thrown every last penny at it. Meanwhile, we got sued (long story) and have to repay a judgement, had to move out of our apartment and have been living with my husband’s parents for the past 7 months. So, you can see why we eloped! Sometimes it feels like everything is conspiring against you. I joke that my hubs just has bad luck, but he does save lives for a living so that doesn’t seem plausible. Maybe this is just the way life is and the older you get with the more things you own, the more issues you have to deal with? I am still figuring it out, but here are the things that have helped me survive through the pain of life and I hope they may help you as well if you are experiencing your own worst year ever. Let’s hope 2016 has better things in store! xx, Beth
Watch Oprah. Seriously, Super Soul Sunday is my jam. The show helps you put life in perspective through learning of other’s struggles, and gives you positive thoughts and ideas from those who have walked before you (and probably had a much tougher road). Super Soul Sunday is like going to church for me, I always feel better afterwards. Note: I also went to church as well which helped.
Yoga. So relaxing and calming, I always feel better after doing yoga. Turn the lights down low, light a candle and practice yoga for a bit, you can’t help but feel better and lighter when done. Check out @Bananablondie’s Yoga videos on Youtube.
Workouts. Yoga seems to be the most calming to me, but any workout makes you feel better so walk/run/punch out your stress, join a class, do anything to exert your emotions/anger/energy. Sometimes when you are sad you don’t feel like doing anything but wallowing but if you can make yourself workout I promise this will help immensely. Also, treating your body well reaps its own rewards physically, mentally and emotionally. Check out @toneitup’s Youtube Videos for free at home workouts.
Podcasts. At times when I really felt like I might have an emotional breakdown I started listening to uplifting podcasts during my morning commute or at lunchtime. Whether they were sermons, inspirational Ted Talks, whatever – they take your mind off your own issues for awhile and some might even inspire you in other ways.
Have that breakdown. One night I came home from work crying hysterically and just had a good sob/pity party for an hour while my MIL comforted me. Then I picked myself up and worked out. I am a firm believer in a good cry sometimes.
Talking to a close friend/loved one. There is nothing more comforting than leaning on a close one as a sounding board to pick you up when you are down. In fact, kill two birds with one stone and workout with that close one while you talk about your crap. They may help shed light on new ways to approach your issue or might be experiencing their own stress and need you by their side just as much!
Writing. Whether in a journal or on a blog I believe that writing during a time of high stress can be cathartic. Just writing this post and thinking it might help one person makes me feel better.
Do you have any tips or tricks that help you deal with stress? I would love to know them!